My dearly beloved worked all night last night, so this morning I made sure that when he joined me in bed, that again his side was toasty warm. I turned on the electric blanket on his side, and left it on to keep the bed warm until he came in. I knew he'd appreciate it, and as I mentioned yesterday- it's the little things.
Unfortunately, he obviously didn't sleep well, as he woke up on the wrong side of the bed with his Grumpy Pants on. It didn't take me long to bail out of the living room and head for the hills- otherwise known as the computer room, so at the moment, he's on his side of the house, and I'm on mine. Choosing my battles wisely is one of those things that is an ongoing process for me, and since I know his problem is nothing more than the fact that he didn't sleep long enough, and is still tired, I'm leaving him alone with his grumpiness, and am spending my time doing laundry and a few other little things that need to be done.
This kind of brings me to the subject of the movie Fireproof. Have you seen it? If not, I'd highly suggest you do.
I'll be the first to say that the acting is not the best, and even a bit cheesy at times, but the message in this movie is one that EVERY married couple should experience.
When I sat down to watch it a few weeks ago, I asked Marcel if he wanted to watch it with me. Since it isn't your typical 'action' film, I really didn't expect him to say yes, but he did, and what surprised me even more than that- is that he actually really enjoyed it.
The story line is about a couple who are on the brink of divorce, and how they deal with what they are feeling. It's powerful, and I cried buckets (and I do mean buckets) of tears.
Even though Marcel and I have a great marriage, I know that there is always room for improvement, and I saw myself in several places in the movie- small things that I didn't realize until that moment, and knew that I could change.
Perspective really IS everything, and this movie gives a bit of insight to how men and women think, plus what is needed to make the relationship work.
One sure way to fail is to give up-
When I think about all the relationships that fail these days, and I think about how so many people search outside of their relationships to find someone who can give them what they need, I wonder if they invested the time in their current relationship that they did in the extra curricular one, how different their lives would be.
I KNOW that in bad relationships that it also takes TWO people working towards a common goal to make things work, and sometimes that isn't the case, but I wonder just how many relastionships and marriages fail because we stop listening to each other, respecting each other, and really caring what the other thinks and feels?
Something to think about-